Do you know that certain things you do when your wife is pregnant actually contributes to the state of health of the mother and unborn child?
It bothers me a lot when I see men showing little or no concern to their pregnant wife or fail to adjust to some temporary changes.
It's just 9 months, not like it's forever. Pregnancy is not bought in the market, neither is it a software downloaded from the internet. It's a seed planted by you, the men and is germinating. There has to be a carrier of that seed while it grows, and women have been given the responsibility to carry it.
Pregnancy is a preparation to welcome a new member of the family, it is an amazing, fun-filled journey.
There are certain changes that comes with pregnancy but people's body differ and that is how their body changes would differ.
Women differ in body changes. Although Pregnancy makes women do certain things in common.
■Once in a while she would nag
■Once in a while she would request for things unimaginable e.g she wants to eat okro and bread, pizza with chicken, hazel nuts with milk, burnt sushi, burnt cake, burnt cookies, roasted rice or some other stuff that may seem crazy to you. Lol
■Once in a while she would get so lazy to make you your meals.
■Once in a while she would want to stretch her legs on your laps or lay on your body or play with you. Please pardon her... carrying the baby is not easy.
Her needs may be insatiable at times.
The first Trimester of the journey can be so annoying. Like I say women differ from each other during pregnancy.
● Most women vomit.
●Most of them sleep like water leaf, they sleep off anywhere with the slightest chance even in the kitchen.
● Some women have fever.
● Some may be looking cranky and dry.
● Some add so much weight.
● Some have skin discolourations, making their skin look burnt.
●Some even go round with handkerchief spitting in it, some get nauseous most of the time.
Please tolerate this, it's beautiful afterwards.
Her attitude becomes annoying, most times you cant stand her. It is annoying when I see men neglect their pregnant wife. She is not an abomination, neither is she a curse. I must say, it's not an easy journey for all.
The final stages is when you need to be extra patient, loving, enduring and understanding.
NOTE:
1) Always observe your wife's feet while pregnant, it swells often. Please give her a basin of water to soak her leg once in a while, it's one of the best treat women enjoy during pregnancy. Massage her legs too, pamper her.
2) Ask her regularly how she feels and how the baby is. She's the carrier, she is the one feeling the baby.
3) Tell her how beautiful she looks during pregnancy e.g "Baby, look how this pregnancy made you look so beautiful" Even if she grew bigger in size cause of the pregnancy, celebrate her, appreciate her, it's just for the now.
4) Don't be upset if she ever wakes you up by 2am to help massage her feet. It's not bad to feel little of her discomfort and pain. She shouldn't carry it alone, it's 'our' baby, you should be in this together.
5) No rule book stopped sex during pregnancy.... do it. It's not like the vagina stopped working during pregnancy. Continue the work that brought the pregnancy, man.
6) Don't be ashamed to take her out or go on dates. Take her out once in a while to those lovey-dovey places you used to go together. They love it.
Most times I wonder what crosses the heart of men when they see their pregnant wives. Carrying a child for 9 months isn't easy.
I urge all men to get closer to their spouses during pregnancy because that's one of the times she needs you most.
A big shout out to all the men who stand beside their wives during and after pregnancy, you are the best!
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